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She cheated. I told her the truth.

Dec 16, 2025

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4 min read

She cheated. I told her the truth.

don't be a YES MAN

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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How this "nice guy" escaped the friendzone

Dec 3, 2025

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5 min read

How this "nice guy" escaped the friendzone

"... 32 and had never kissed a woman"

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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Better or bitter?

Nov 17, 2025

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2 min read

Better or bitter?

.. the choice is yours

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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I dodged a bullet last night

Nov 13, 2025

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3 min read

I dodged a bullet last night

... she waved a huge red flag

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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Why nobody respects a harmless man

Nov 7, 2025

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3 min read

Why nobody respects a harmless man

.. the truth all men need to hear

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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How much disrespect do you tolerate?

Oct 28, 2025

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4 min read

How much disrespect do you tolerate?

... it's time to start teaching people how to respect you

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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Dating apps are awful

Oct 19, 2025

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2 min read

Dating apps are awful

... do this instead

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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You aren't unattractive .. you're just numb

Oct 13, 2025

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3 min read

You aren't unattractive .. you're just numb

... the silent turn off that women won't tell you

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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Stop putting her on a pedestal

Oct 6, 2025

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3 min read

Stop putting her on a pedestal

... the one thing every man must realise eventually

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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6 shifts to attract a loyal, feminine woman

Sep 25, 2025

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4 min read

6 shifts to attract a loyal, feminine woman

... start doing this immediately

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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The easiest way to approach a woman

Sep 11, 2025

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3 min read

The easiest way to approach a woman

... the skill every man needs

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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How to stop freezing up around women

Aug 10, 2025

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4 min read

How to stop freezing up around women

this is the only way

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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You don’t need more confidence...you need less shame

Aug 2, 2025

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3 min read

You don’t need more confidence...you need less shame

the key to being yourself

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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Why "nice guys" attract chaotic women

Jun 22, 2025

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7 min read

Why "nice guys" attract chaotic women

... it's all about leadership

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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You feel invisible to women for one reason

Jun 2, 2025

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5 min read

You feel invisible to women for one reason

... she can't feel you if YOU can't feel you

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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4 truths that kill your inner nice guy

May 3, 2025

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2 min read

4 truths that kill your inner nice guy

... hard pills to swallow

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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The hidden rage in every "nice guy"

May 2, 2025

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4 min read

The hidden rage in every "nice guy"

... stop hiding it

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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Why "nice guys" get friend-zoned

Apr 27, 2025

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2 min read

Why "nice guys" get friend-zoned

(... it's not your looks, status, height or money)

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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How to find your voice again (after people pleasing)

Apr 23, 2025

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4 min read

How to find your voice again (after people pleasing)

Your voice isn’t gone. It’s just buried under years of approval-seeking.

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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Why women don't respect "nice guys"

Apr 20, 2025

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4 min read

Why women don't respect "nice guys"

... the moment I realised a hard truth

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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Why you freeze up in conflict (and how to fix it)

Apr 13, 2025

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3 min read

Why you freeze up in conflict (and how to fix it)

... 4 steps to gaining respect you deserve

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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7 Types of Pushback When You Stop Being a People Pleaser

Mar 22, 2025

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6 min read

7 Types of Pushback When You Stop Being a People Pleaser

"better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a way"

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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how to get out of "nice guy hell"

Mar 1, 2025

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7 min read

how to get out of "nice guy hell"

3 demons you need to slay

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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5 things that happen when you finally start standing up for yourself

Feb 26, 2025

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6 min read

5 things that happen when you finally start standing up for yourself

"... you deserve to be here. You deserve respect."

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas

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How to build the courage to be disliked (3 ways)

Feb 22, 2025

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6 min read

How to build the courage to be disliked (3 ways)

"... give yourself permission to be yourself"

Oliver Robert Lucas
Oliver Robert Lucas
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