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Alright mate
If you’ve ever felt walked over, resentful, or like no one really sees the “good guy” effort you put in… this one’s for you.
Because here’s the truth:
Being nice isn’t kind. It’s survival.
For years, I thought being agreeable, polite, and low-maintenance was what made me a “good man.”
But underneath that mask, I was suppressing my anger, hiding my needs, and avoiding conflict at all costs.
And it ruined me:
It wrecked my relationships.
It killed my confidence.
It left me quietly resenting everyone around me.
Eventually, I learned that this wasn’t kindness. It was manipulation.
Not in a malicious way.
But in a self-protective, approval-seeking way.
I wasn’t being real. I was trying to avoid rejection.
And the thing is… this is exactly what I see in almost every man I coach.
The mask of the nice guy runs deep.
If you never remove it, it will cost you your power, your purpose, and your peace.
In this week’s video, I shared the 4 hard truths that every nice guy needs to hear, including:
Why repressed anger is quietly destroying you
Why people-pleasing is actually manipulation
How the father wound fuels the “good boy” performance
And why radical honesty is the real path to confidence
You don’t have to keep proving your worth.
You just have to stop hiding the truth.
Stay courageous,
Oliver