6 shifts to attract a loyal, feminine woman

Alright mate,

How’s it going?

For most of my life, I felt invisible to attractive women…

Or worse, I ended up in toxic relationships with the wrong women.

Sound familiar?

The hard truth: it was my Nice Guy Syndrome that kept repelling amazing women.

Once I made a few big shifts, everything changed.

So here are the 6 shifts that turned dating loyal, attractive women into the easiest part of my life:

1. Have a sense of direction in life

Nice Guys drift through life without purpose.

They unconsciously make women their mission.

That neediness repels healthy women OR creates a dynamic where a woman sees herself as your mother … not your lover (this brutally murders her attraction).

Feminine women don’t want to be your purpose.

They want to support your purpose.

Get clear on your vision first … then the right woman will be drawn to join you in it.

A man with a mission is magnetic.

2. Set the tone and take the lead

Nice Guys hand the frame over constantly:

“What do you want to eat?”

“Where do you want to go?”

Every time you defer, she feels she’s more decisive than you.

She assumes the masculine role. Attraction dies.

Instead: “I know a great Vietnamese spot. Let’s go at 7:30.”

That decisiveness is masculine energy.

It lets her relax into her femininity and that’s addictive.

3. Create a positive emotional experience

Nice Guys live in their heads, cut off from their emotions.

Two things come from this:

• She feels nothing around him.

• She doesn’t trust him.

Both make her pull away.

So commit to slowing down and building awareness of your own emotions first.

When dating you is an emotionally enjoyable experience for her, she’ll want more of it.

4. Become a chooser, not a beggar

Nice Guys secretly believe they’re broken … so they often settle.

They either avoid women altogether.

Or they date women they don’t even like just to avoid being alone (I did this for years).

That desperation attracts emptiness, drama and even abuse.

Flip the script. You aren’t a beggar. You deserve better.

Define your must-haves and values in a partner.

When you know what you’re looking for, you stop tolerating chaos.

5. Fix your relationship with yourself

Here’s the truth…

Rejection is huge part of dating. Yes … even for attractive men.

But any form of rejection often crushes Nice Guys because it confirms their secret shame:

“I’m not good enough.”

One “no” and they often retreat back to their apartment (and YouTube/Pornhub) for weeks.

The difference is all about how you treat yourself.

If you loved yourself so psychotically … would a rejection really stop you?

Probably not.

It would sting but it wouldn’t break you.

So if you struggle with self-love … study Shadow Work.

It will change your life.

6. Meet women in real life

Nice Guys often hide on apps, swiping for validation.

It feels safe .. but it often feeds a man’s inner coward (just telling it how it is).

And when a woman sees you as a coward, it’s over.

(That’s why getting good at approaching is a grrreat idea btw .. it demonstrates confidence and courage instantly).

Apps should only EVER be icing, not the cake.

Most men are way more attractive in person.

So here are 10 better places than Tinder:

• Dance classes

• Yoga studios

• Boxing or CrossFit gyms

• Art/music/language classes

• Coffee shops & co-working

• Festivals & live music

• Travel hotspots

• Breathwork/tantra/meditation events

• High-end cocktail bars

• Dog parks

But don’t fake an interest just to meet women.

Find the natural intersection between your real passions + social environments.

Here’s the bottom line:

Loyal feminine women exist. Don’t settle for an empty or toxic dating life.

You deserve better.

But despite everything I’ve just said, I need to hit this point home.

LEVEL YOURSELF UP FOR YOU FIRST

And either the right woman will show up .. or she won’t (even though she will 😉).

Either way, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

If you’re done feeling invisible and want to build the kind of confidence where loyal, feminine women choose you…

👉 Click here to book a call with me

We’ll cut through your Nice Guy patterns, map out your mission, and get you moving toward the kind of relationships and social life you actually want.

Talk soon,

Oliver