Women can't stand weak men

Hey man

I’m in Kuala Lumpur right now…

And being a white guy in a lower-income Asian country means my Bumble account is blowing up.

This has got me thinking about a truth I should have learned MUCH earlier in my life.

It’s a hard pill that every man needs to swallow sooner or later.

Women can’t stand weak men.

If you want an amazing relationship with a great woman, you’ll need to bring your A-game.

And if she sees you as weak, it’s game over.

This doesn’t mean being a stoic, cold and emotionless man.

But this does mean being an emotionally resilient man who helps her feel safe and provides structure to her world.

A woman will begin to see you as weak when...

• You don't own your mistakes.

• You don't follow through on your promises.

• You don't stick up for yourself.

• You lack a sense of ambition.

• You're emotionally reactive (not responsive).

And if she starts to see you as weak, things will go south pretty quickly.

• She'll be less open to you sexually.

• She'll be more critical (even naggy) over "small" things.

• She'll be less soft, fun and playful.

• She might even openly disrespect you, both in private and in public.

You'll argue more & harbour resentment towards each other.

However … moments of weakness are human and there’s nothing wrong with leaning on her from time to time.

Why else would you have a woman in your life if you can’t feel nurtured & supported by her?

But by consistently failing to be her rock.

She’ll pull away from you.

You need to become the leader she’s looking for.

She will not tolerate dating a boy in a man’s body.

This starts with self-leadership.

It starts by becoming a man who can handle strong emotions.

A man who isn’t impulsively driven by pleasure-seeking and addictive habits.

A man who makes decisions.

A man who knows himself, knows where he’s going and knows what he wants.

If you become this, you’ll earn her trust, lust and devotion.

But like all things, don’t do it for women.

Do it for yourself.

P.s. Helping you become the leader of your life so you can powerfully lead her is part of what I do in my 12-week mentorship program for men aged 30+

I help you conquer addictions, find direction in life, discover (or rediscover) your true self and make that self-present in your relationships while being able to talk with confidence to anyone.

It's all aimed at being able to say "I'm a man" and actually believe it.

All you have to do is click this link which will take you to my calendar.

Find a time that suits you, block it out and answer the follow-up questions.

We’ll meet on a call & find the clarity you're looking for and make a game plan for the next few months of your life.

Power to you, brother.

Much love.

Oliver