Why Nice Guys Lose and Kind Men Win

Alright, mate,

I’m currently sipping black tea and scrolling Threads, where a single post just got me +150 followers.

The topic?

Nice Guys vs. Kind Men.

And no, I’m not pondering who would win in a fight.

I’m talking about why being a "nice guy" is holding you back.

Here’s the problem with nice guys:

❌ They avoid conflict … but end up bitter and resentful.
❌ They help others … but secretly expect something in return.
❌ They hide their feelings … but feel lonely and misunderstood.
❌ They seek approval … but don’t approve of themselves.
❌ They feel used … but don’t speak up.

Sound familiar, mate?

It’s true: nice guys finish last—not because they’re kind, but because they lack the courage to be honest.

Kind men, on the other hand, are a different breed:

✅ They face conflict directly to resolve it.
✅ They help without expecting anything in return.
✅ They speak their truth, even if it’s uncomfortable.
✅ They value their own self-worth, independent of others’ opinions.
✅ They enforce boundaries and protect their energy.

The difference is simple:

Nice guys are harmless but lack the power to be good.

Kind men are courageous and have the power to make a difference.

Being kind isn’t about being easygoing.

It’s about doing what’s RIGHT—even when it’s hard.

It takes balls to speak up, risk rejection, or stand against the crowd.

And that’s the kind of courage I want for you.

Anyway, mate.

That’s all I wanted to share with you today.

Stay courageous,

Oliver

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