This saved me when I hit rock bottom...

Hey man

I hope your journey in life is going well.

Today I want to tell you the one thing that saved me when I hit rock bottom.

2017 ...

I had just gone through a horrible breakup.

And even though the relationship was toxic, I still craved her validation and affection.

I wasn't over her. At all.

3 weeks after the breakup we met up ...

She shared with me that she had been sleeping with other guys.

This devastated me.

I can still remember the moment it felt like my chest was tearing apart.

But they say the wound is where the light enters you.

As painful as this was...

At that moment I realised I wasn't the man I needed to be.

The man I wanted to be. The man I deserved to be.

I knew that something had to change.

A part of me realised that chasing validation from women was one of the things making me a weak man ...

A man who, in hindsight, co-created a toxic dynamic by being too passive, never setting any boundaries and consistently disrespecting myself.

But chasing validation from women was almost an identity at this point.

What was I supposed to do instead of trying to seek happiness from women?

Around the time I was pondering this question, I had joined a few personal development groups on Facebook.

I posted about my breakup. It went viral in one group.

In response to the post, a grizzled man in his 60s named Christopher Wallace invited me to join his online weekly men's group.

He knew what I needed. He was right.

I accepted the offer.

And to this day, I consider that decision to be one of the most monumental choices I've ever made.

It was my first real jump into men's work and to doing something I never thought I needed to do.

Develop my masculine energy.

You see the thing I WANTED back then was validation, sex and fun times with women.

But the thing I NEEDED was the support, encouragement and connection with men.

The truth was ... back then I was still mentally a boy looking for mummy.

And eventually, my ex-girlfriend realised it. Women always do eventually.

But mummy (women) is not where a man finds his power.

It's in masculine brotherhood.

It's in finding his tribe of other men who can reveal the truth to him in a compassionate way — revealing his blind spots and areas of improvement.

It's in a group of other men who can hold him accountable for being the best version of himself.

Men who can believe in him when he doesn't believe in himself.

Eventually, I left that group in full knowledge that one day I would lead my own.

And today, I'm extending the same invitation to many of you men that Chris extended to me when I needed it the most.

I'm launching my community.

A place where men can gather to heal, grow and become the best version of themselves.

The doors will open on Saturday.

You will receive an email in the morning with an invitation to join.

And the doors will close on Sunday evening.

That means less than 48 hours.

This is because there is a limited number of people I can take at this time.

And for the first 20 people, I will extend to you a 50% lifetime discount as a thank you for trusting me and having the courage to embark on this amazing journey.

Keep an eye out for that email.

And get on the waiting list here so you don't miss it.

Take care, brother.

Stay courageous,

Oliver