How to process any emotion

Hey man.

I hope you’re doing well today.

If you opened this email then maybe you’ve got some rough stuff going on at the moment.

Whether that’s anxiety or fear.

Sadness or depression.

Feeling lost and directionless.

Whatever it is, I’m confident that this will help you.

It’s a system for letting go of “stuck” emotions that might be holding you back.

Yes - emotions can get stuck.

In an ideal scenario, if something emotionally triggering happens to us, we feel it fully, let it go and move on with our lives.

This happens 95% of the time.

But what about the other 5%?

Those emotions get stuck.

This is kind of like a muscle that develops a “knot” that needs to be massaged out.

The result?

An emotional blockage that, if left unprocessed, can sabotage our lives.

Every time an emotion gets “stuck” it’s like adding a 5kg weight to your emotional “backpack.”

Eventually, that backpack gets extremely heavy.

Maybe your emotional backpack is heavy right now.

Maybe the stuff that you’re experiencing right now is the result of some emotions that you never fully processed.

Either way, I’m going to take you through a simple step-by-step system (I love systems) for processing any stuck emotion.

If you go through this, you may tap into an emotion that comes up, allowing you to let it go and be free from it.

It’s a process I use with clients in my coaching calls.

Firstly, you find a calm, quiet place where you won’t be disturbed.

You sit in a comfortable position for 5 minutes and focus on your breathing.

Then when you’re ready…

Locate the emotion in the body. You might label it first as anxiety, tension or sadness. But focus on the raw sensations instead of the label. Maybe it’s a knot in your stomach or a heaviness in your forehead.

Once you’ve located the emotion…

Allow it to be there without judgment. Consciously accepting the emotion without trying to fix or change it is potentially transformative in itself. Allow it to simply be there.

When you’ve sat with it for a few moments…

Invite it to get bigger. Simply say “thank you, show me more.” and see what happens. By thanking the emotion, you’re resolving any last-minute inner conflict.

And by asking the emotion to get bigger, you’re opening the door for more to come up.

Breathe into it. As the emotion grows, imagine you’re inhaling energy into this area. Continue to breathe into it, allowing the emotion to change as it wishes. It’s likely some memories and triggers will come up into your awareness.

Repeat. Your awareness might drift away. Locate the emotion again. Allow it to be there. Invite it to get bigger. Breathe into it.

As you repeat this process, you drop a level deeper each time.

When you’re finished, you’ll know it.

Your t-shirt might be a little tear-soaked.

And that’s okay.

Anyway, I just wanted to give you something valuable I use with clients.

If you want me to record a guided meditation taking you through this, send me an email and let me know if that would be useful to you.

Thanks, mate

Until next time,

Oliver