The moment I finally understood women

Hey man.

Recently I was on a date with a beautiful woman from Chile.

I'd never met a Chilean woman before, so I was excited to say the least.

The date was going well.

We were flirting fairly hard.

And the British banter was just my level of spiciness.

But…

After we’d had a few too many drinks, something happened.

I made a joke about me buying YET ANOTHER round of drinks.

I was kidding, but she didn’t get the message.

"YOU F*CKING PR*CK!" she spewed at me

The place fell silent.

Eyes were on us.

The moment suddenly became a challenge.

How does Oliver handle this?

Ollie from a year ago would have said in a panic...

"I'm so sorry for offending you. I didn't mean it. Do you forgive me?"

Why?

Because I used to think you should never annoy a woman.

I was a pushover who felt anxious and guilty around women.

A timid guy without a backbone.

But this moment was different.

The nice guy people pleaser in me was gone.

I placed my glass on the table and let the silence speak as I looked into her eyes.

"what?" she said

"too far" I said.

"what's wrong with y---" she attempted to argue back.

But I didn't allow it.

"let me make something clear to you. If you speak to me like that again, this night is over" 

I didn’t get angry or emotional.

I knew what my boundary was.

I know how I will (and won’t) be spoken to.

And I calmly communicated this with her.

The silence returned.

I braced, expecting her inner Latina to come out in full force.

But it didn't happen.

What she said next shocked me.

"I'm sorry. You don't deserve to be spoken to like that. I got carried away and went too far. Do you forgive me?"

"Yeah, I forgive you. Now let's have a good night. I’ll get the Caipirinhas"

I went to get drinks & came back.

This wasn’t over.

What she was about to say changed my life.

I will never forget it.

"Oliver, can I tell you something?"

“Shit … here we go” I thought.

"Go ahead" I said

"I think you should do more of that. I feel safer with you. Like I can trust you. And to be honest...I'm really f#cking wet right now."

This was the moment I finally understood women.

To open up to us deeply, a woman needs to feel safe with us.

And to be wildly attracted to a man, she NEEDS to respect him.

And a people pleaser is not a man she feels safe with OR respects.

Because if he can’t stand up TO her … how could he stand up FOR her?

And if he doesn’t respect himself, she won’t respect him either.

That moment was the spark that lit the fire between us.

The night was full of passion, lust and a deep, soulful connection.

It was one of the best dates I’ve ever been on.

And one of the best nights of intimacy I’ve ever had to this day.

I will never forget it, nor the lesson it taught me.

Men.

Have standards for how you will be treated, not just by women but by anyone.

Stick up for yourself.

Do not allow any woman, no matter how beautiful she is, to disrespect you.

Not only will you become the confident leader that most women crave.

But you’ll walk taller. You’ll look people in the eye.

You’ll ooze the confidence of a respected man.

Sound good? Of course, it does.

Then maybe you’ll like what I’m about to share with you.

Helping you master your communication and talk to women in a way that earns her respect, lust and devotion is part of what I do in the Man On Purpose 12-week mentorship program for men aged 30+

I also help you find a strong sense of direction in life, discover (or rediscover) your true self and make that self-present in your relationships while being able to talk with confidence to anyone.

All you have to do is click this link, which will take you to my calendar.

Find a time that suits you, block it out and answer the follow-up questions.

We’ll meet on a call & find the clarity you're looking for, and make a game plan for the next few months of your life.

If your relationships aren’t fulfilling you, then don’t wait.

Let’s talk.

Oliver “Gringo” Cowlishaw