My little brother is a zombie

I have a little brother.

He's 12 now. 13 this year.

And I love him so much I could die.

Not only does he play a terrifyingly convincing zombie...

That video (recorded 9 years ago) shows you why he's my favourite person on the planet.

But as sad as it is to say...

I didn't always feel the love I do for him now.

At one point in time, my heart was closed.

Not just to him.

But to everyone.

Logically, I could say "I love you" to someone...

But I never felt it.

It was too scary to feel it.

My mind was too aware that...

People leave.

People change.

People die.

I have experienced the horror of it all many times.

So I built a castle around myself to keep people away.

I donned a suit of impenetrable plate armour around my heart.

It felt safe.

I felt like a badass.

But as time went on...

The castle got too cold.

The armour became too heavy.

And I began to realise something.

Closing myself off wasn't protecting me at all.

All my castle and armour gave me was the ILLUSION of safety.

Because no matter how numb you are...

People will still change, betray, leave and die.

This is life.

You're in this shit whether you like it or not.

Accept it or be dragged along by it.

Those are your only two options.

The only thing that shutting people out does is rob you of the only joy that really matters in the end...

The joy of loving and allowing yourself to be loved by other people.

I'm not going to mince words.

It takes courage to do that.

In this world, the truly defenceless are vulnerable.

Trauma is real.

Evil is real.

Some people out there want to watch the world burn along with everyone in it.

The emotional armour we wear is NECESSARY sometimes.

But we need to be able to remove it.

Because if you've worn your emotional armour for so long that you don't even know you're wearing it anymore...

Then my brother, that armour is killing you inside.

And maybe it's made you so numb that you can't feel ANYTHING anymore.

Maybe it's made you lonely and empty like it did with me.

If that's the case, maybe it's time for a strategic emotional DE-armouring.

This means quitting your usual modes of distraction.

It means sitting in the emotions you usually avoid.

It means becoming aware of all the ways you keep people at arm's length for no good reason...and committing to stop doing it.

It means finding SAFE people and opening up gradually, as they earn your trust.

This will sting like a bitch for a while.

But on the other side lies what you're really seeking.

Hell ... what we're all seeking, deep down.

And that’s something very simple.

To see and be seen.

To love and be loved.

Without the armour...

As the vulnerable and imperfect person that we really are.

If you feel:

• emotionally numb

• lonely

• socially awkward/anxious

If you’re stuck without plans on weekends while you see everyone else out there having a social life.

If you’ve been single for a long time (and are worried it will never change).

If you just want a close, tight social circle you can be yourself with.

Then this is what I help men achieve in 12 weeks with my programme.

We’ll jump on a deep dive call every week where you will heal your emotional wounds that lie at the root of your social confidence issues (not just cheap shallow tricks).

You will rewire an entire lifetime’s worth of negative programming that’s been sabotaging you this whole time.

You will develop communication skills that will allow you to be charismatic, likeable, funny and memorable. These skills will carry you through your entire life.

You will be able to talk confidently to anyone and connect with them effortlessly (because yes … you’re being yourself possibly for the first time).

You deserve to have people in your life who love you for you. You deserve your tribe to hang out and do cool stuff with.

Nobody deserves to be lonely because of emotional baggage.

And certainly not you.

Click this link which will bring you to my calendar. Book a time that suits you and answer the follow-up questions. We will meet on a call and map out a gameplan to overcome the emotional blocks that have been sabotaging your social life, self-esteem and confidence for years.

Looking forward to speaking with you,

Oliver