This is why you lack direction in life

Hey man

Hope you’re having a chill Sunday.

I’m in an apartment on the top floor of a skyscraper in Kuala Lumpur right now.

The view is both breathtaking … and shit scary.

Kind of like the topic of today’s email, which is...

Lacking a sense of direction in life.

Here's how this felt to me:

Having no direction in life is like floating at sea on a small boat without sails or a paddle.

• You're adrift, floating around without any point to your life.

• You compare yourself to other more "accomplished" people and feel completely inadequate.

• You think you should be MUCH further ahead than you are.

• When you think about what you want to do in life, the question causes so much anxiety that you load up League Of Legends to distract yourself.

Instagram keeps telling you that you should be more ambitious and motivated. And you understand the logic...

But you can't force yourself to be ambitious.

Something just isn't "clicking."

And what's worse is that you dread the future.

"What if I'm like this in 10 years?"

The wasted time keeps piling up as you feel the clock ticking away.

You shrink and become the "timid, nice guy" around other people.

It's a horrible phase to be in.

How do I know?

Because this was me 4 years ago.

But I climbed out of that hole.

And since I did...life just keeps getting better with every passing year.

I want the same for you.

So here's why you lack direction and how to resolve it.

Let me explain something.

When you were a young kid ... did you lack direction?

No.

• You wanted things.

• You felt things.

• You enjoyed things.

• You disliked things.

• You loved things.

• You asked for things.

There was no inner conflict in you.

You were 100% authentic.

But then what happened?

Other people started sending you messages.

• Your mum started criticising you.

• Your dad told you to be quiet.

• Your teachers said your dreams were silly.

• Your classmates told you that your clothes looked stupid.

• (Insert your own here: ________________________)

And these messages made you start second-guessing yourself.

You started believing a very toxic message:

"I am NOT enough. My desires don't matter. Who I really am is bad. In order for people to approve of me - I will be what they want me to be."

From this belief, you created a life designed to please other people.

Every person...except yourself.

You became disconnected from your real, authentic, TRUE self.

Who you REALLY are.

This is why you lack direction.

You aren't connected to your authentic self. Maybe you haven't felt connected to that person for years. Or even decades.

So how do you reconnect to who you really are?

Well, this email has already gone on for too long so let me give you the most high-impact solution I have.

Helping you deeply connect to the confident, authentic man you are is part of what I do in my 12-week mentorship program for men aged 25+.

I help you develop a strong sense of direction in life, discover (or rediscover) your true self and make that self-present in your relationships while being able to talk with confidence to anyone.

It will also help you break your addictions since most compulsions/addictions thrive when your life lacks meaning.

It's all aimed at being able to say "I'm a man" and actually believe it.

All you have to do is click this link which will take you to my calendar.

Find a time that suits you, block it out and answer the follow-up questions.

We’ll meet on a call & find the clarity you're looking for and make a game plan for the next few months of your life.

Sound good? I look forward to speaking with you.

Thanks, mate.

Oliver "Clarity" Cowlishaw