I'm going through something...

Hey man

I’m currently going through something big.

I will attempt to put it into words.

Why?

Because I believe that the process I am going through is something any man can learn from.

I’m at the end of my third-week training for a Muay Thai fight in Thailand.

Not only is this one of the best things I have ever done.

But it’s also initiated what I can only describe as a spiritual awakening.

Today was the hardest training session I have ever had…

This was followed by a 4-minute ice bath in water so cold it burns.

As I sat trembling in the water with Fas (my trainer) standing over me…

The icy water was stabbing my joints.

My skin felt like it was being pierced all over with needles.

My body was crying with pain, begging to leave the water for the comfort of the sun…

“4 minutes left” Fas tells me.

I felt hopeless. I’ve never done 4 minutes before.

And yet, after the first minute…the words came to me:

“Life is suffering.”

The thought stunned me.

This is what my old Zen teacher used to say (I studied Zen in my early 20s).

And in that moment, those words gave me strength as I accepted the pain.

Suddenly, the cold became bearable.

In that moment I thought…

Muay Thai and Buddhism are both saying the same thing.

Acceptance of suffering is the pathway to self-actualisation.

Every problem we face, at its root, stems from resistance.

• Avoidance.

• Hiding.

• Running away.

• Bullshitting oneself and other people.

• All forms of cowardly behaviour.

It’s all an effort to avoid discomfort.

And this avoidance is what keeps a man stuck psychologically as a boy.

Boys pursue pleasure. Men pursue purpose.

Boys avoid suffering at all costs.

Men realise that the price of a life lived well is embracing suffering.

A man knows how to suffer well.

That’s what makes a man a man.

Absolutely nothing worth doing comes without some form of suffering.

“4 minutes over” Fas tells me before dunking my head under the water.

I arise from the ice bath as if baptised.

The words “life is suffering” etched into my brain once again.

So to you, my man, I have two questions for you…

If you want to grow into the kind of man you are proud of being, embracing discomfort and suffering is a fucking must.

It will be hard in the beginning, but the self-respect and grounded confidence you build from it is worth it a thousandfold.

What have you been avoiding, purely because you know it will be difficult?

And how can you take one step into that discomfort?

But the problem is…

When you’ve spent so long stuck in comfort-seeking, you need something drastic to snap you out of that state.

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Big love, brother.

Speak soon,

OC