The emotional wound that scares women away

Hey brother

Hope you’re well

Okay…maybe women aren’t actively avoiding you.

But maybe your dating life isn’t what you want it to be.

• Women ghost you or flake on dates.

• They don’t make eye contact with you…or express any interest, really.

• Maybe you haven’t been naked with a woman in a while.

I get it.

But I’m going to give you a huge piece of the puzzle today so listen carefully.

This is something most men NEVER think about (and I mean that).

Most of the time, it's nothing to do with your height, your income or your looks.

Men who use these excuses often admit to never approaching women.

This says it all.

These things play a role but not as much as an excuse-seeking mind likes to believe.

They certainly aren't the reason you aren't enjoying a fulfilling dating life.

Many men with the same "handicap" as you have an abundance of fun and enjoyable experiences with women.

Women want to be around them and are attracted to them.

But why?

What do these men ALL have in common?

They genuinely love women and they openly invite them into their lives.

Yes, your self-perception is the other side of the coin but that's not what I'm talking about today.

And no, these men aren't "simps" who unhealthily pedestalize women in a delusional way either. That's ultimately just as toxic.

They have a balanced, forgiving, positive and inviting relationship with women in general.

Most of the men who come to me because they are struggling with women harbour some unprocessed resentment, anger or even hatred towards women as a whole.

Women are sensing this, almost on a body level, and are responding accordingly by maintaining a safe distance.

And to the man, it almost feels like there's a forcefield around him that pushes women away.

Women have evolved to sense a threat from a man because historically, predatory men have been the biggest threat to a woman's safety.

To her, this man signals danger.

And that danger is real because it's often a danger within him that even he's not aware of. It lurks in his shadow.

The resentment and hatred a man directs towards women is almost always the unprocessed resentment and hatred he has towards his mother.

But that's for another post.

For now, if you want to attract an abundance of amazing women into your life, or that one woman who aligns with you on a soul level, you must look at your relationship with women as a whole.

When you think of a woman or women, what emotions come up?

If there's anything less than a sense of calm...then you have work to do.

Because if you feel hatred, anger, resentment, bitterness, shame, fear excessive craving, existential NEED or even sadness ...

You will never experience the true love and companionship we all seek until you heal what lies at the root of it.

You might be able to talk your way into sleeping with women

Or fool them by pushing some bullshit persona you've created ...

But you'll never deeply experience the love, respect, trust, adoration, connection and unbridled lust of a good woman.

To do that, there's only one way.

And that's going within.

If you're interested in how I help men create amazing relationships with women by doing the real inner work on themselves, reply to this email (yes it’s my direct email).

But if not, I wish you good luck on your journey.

Until next time,

Oliver “Love Shaman” Cowlishaw