Why you don't feel anything anymore

I have a little brother.

He's 12 now. 13 this year.

And I love him so much I could die.

But as sad as it is to say...

I didn't always feel the love I do for him now.

At one point in time, my heart was closed.

Not just to him.

But to everyone.

Logically, I could say "I love you" to someone...

But I never felt it.

In fact, I never felt much of anything.

It was too scary.

My mind was too aware that people leave.

People change.

People die.

And life has the power to crush you.

I have experienced the horror of it all many times.

So here’s what I did…

I wore a suit of impenetrable plate armour around my heart.

It felt safe.

I felt like a badass.

But as time went on...

The armour became too heavy and cold. My body started wasting away.

And I began to realise something.

Closing myself off wasn't protecting me at all.

All my armour gave me was the ILLUSION of safety.

Because no matter how numb you are...

People will still change, betray, leave and die.

The world will always be a dance of chaos and order.

You will be challenged, no matter what.

This is life.

You're in this shit whether you like it or not.

You have only only two options.

Accept it.

Or be dragged along by it.

Shutting people out robs you of the only joy that really matters in the end...

The joy of SEEING and allowing yourself to be SEEN by other people as your true authentic self.

This is impossible to do if you’re unable to take the armour off.

I'm not going to mince words.

This isn’t for cowards. It takes real courage.

Because in this world, the truly defenceless are vulnerable.

Trauma is real.

Evil is real.

Some people out there want to watch the world burn along with everyone in it.

The emotional armour we wear is NECESSARY sometimes.

But we need to be able to remove it.

Maybe you’ve worn your emotional armour for so long that you don't even know you're wearing it anymore...

Maybe that armour is killing you inside, like it was for me.

Maybe it's made you so numb that you can't feel ANYTHING anymore.

Lonely and empty. That’s how the armour can make you feel.

If that's the case, maybe it's time for a strategic emotional DE-armouring.

This means quitting your usual modes of distraction.

It means sitting in the emotions you usually avoid.

It means becoming aware of all the ways you keep people at arm's length...and letting them in.

It means finding SAFE people and opening up gradually, as they earn your trust.

This will sting like a bitch for a while.

But on the other side lies what you're really seeking.

Hell ... what we're all seeking, deep down.

And that’s something very simple.

To see and be seen.

To love and be loved.

Without the armour...

As the vulnerable and imperfect person that we are.

If you don’t feel anything, maybe it’s because you’re still carrying some wounding from the past…

And the numbness is a defence mechanism that’s locked in place.

If that’s the case, maybe it’s time to slow down in your life and focus on healing.

On the 29th July I’m kicking off a 30-day healing circle for men who want to become independent, confident, authentic and purpose-driven men.

And that starts from within.

In a community of other men, you will be taken through a step-by-step process with daily exercises to heal the wounds that keep you stuck in the past unable to move forward.

By the end, you’ll feel lighter, more authentic and comfortable in your own skin.

You’ll exude more of an “unapologetic” aura.

You’ll give far fewer f*cks what people think of you.

You’ll be less of a people-pleaser, and more of an authentic leader who people respect and admire.

And it all happened because you did the real work on yourself.

Click this link to check it out.

We’re kicking off on the 29th … but the early bird (50%) discount ends in 3 days.

I’m excited to see you in the group, brother.

I appreciate you,

OC