Why I denied his request for a refund

Hey man

Something happened recently.

After watching one of my videos about Peter Pan Syndrome, a guy booked a call with me.

He resonated with practically every sign I discussed in the video—feeling like a child, lacking self-trust, avoiding commitments, and constantly dodging difficult situations.

During our conversation, it became clear that his upbringing played a significant role in his current state.

He had been raised in a sheltered environment, shielded from consequences, pain, and challenges.

His father was largely absent, both physically and emotionally, while his mother was overly controlling and critical.

This combination left him poorly equipped to tackle life’s difficulties. This led to a deep-seated fear of stepping out of his comfort zone.

Despite this, he expressed a strong desire to change.

He wanted to grow, to break free from the patterns that had held him back for so long.

So, we made a commitment together—a 12-week coaching program designed to help him develop the habits and mindset necessary to become a mature, independent man.

However, as soon as the first session was scheduled, he panicked.

The idea of confronting his issues head-on was terrifying. He ghosted on the first session. After hearing nothing from him for 3 days, he messaged me attempting to back out, asking for a refund.

But here’s where the lesson in commitment and self-trust came into play.

I refused his request for a refund.

We had made an agreement, and I held him to it. He signed the contract and he knew what would happen if he avoided his challenges.

This was not about the money; it was about teaching him the importance of consequences and honoring commitments.

His entire life had been spent avoiding consequences, and as a result, he had never learned to trust himself or face the challenges of life head-on.

When a man consistently avoids consequences, breaks commitments, and fails to follow through on his word, he loses trust in himself.

His subconscious mind begins to recognize that his promises are empty, and this erodes his confidence and sense of self-worth.

To grow, to truly become an independent man who leads instead of people pleases… it is crucial to do what you say you’re going to do.

And to face the consequences when you don’t.

• What commitments are you avoiding making right now?

• Which responsibilities are you letting fall by the wayside?

• Are there any decisions you’re putting off?

If so, step up and take care of it.

Your confidence and life force energy as a man depends on it.

What I just talked about was only the tip of the iceberg of what happened…

Luckily I made a video talking about the full lesson in it’s entirety.

Watch it here.

And I’ll speak to you soon.

Big love,

OC