how to become a new person in 3 months

Hey, mate

Do you feel stuck in life?

Maybe you know what to do, you just can’t take action and actually do it.

Mate … I think I know the reason.

The reason you feel stuck in life is because of your identity.

Let me explain.

In your mind, you have an image of who you are.

Your self-image.

And it’s this self-image that determines:

• The food you choose to eat.

• The people you choose to hang around with.

• The habits you choose to repeatedly do.

• The place you choose to live.

• The income level you’re comfortable with.

Because these things, like a character in a movie, paint the picture of who you are.

Ultimately, your self-image is your destiny.

It will lead you to heaven or drag you to hell.

You cannot create a new life with an old identity.

If you want to change your life, you need to shift your identity.

If you don’t, you will stay the same or get worse over the next 10 years.

But changing your identity isn’t easy.

In fact, changing it too quickly can feel like you’re dying.

Which in a way, you are.

The old self is dying which is a painful yet necessary process.

But that’s also why so many people resist growth, and will even sabotage themselves to stay in the same place.

Here’s the good news.

You can become a new person in as little as 3 months … if you want to be.

How? One word; environment.

I’m currently in a coffee shop in Koh Phangan, Thailand.

There are yoga studios, meditation centres and health food stores all over the island.

The environment is a lush, green jungle with stunning beaches and clear blue skies.

Most people on this island are fitter, happier and healthier than in most places I’ve ever been.

Do you think that’s a coincidence?

It’s not.

Because your environment either supports your growth or hinders it.

But it’s not all about your physical environment.

That’s just one part of it.

Another thing to consider is your social environment.

Are the people (including your spouse, parents and family) in your life bringing you down or lifting you up?

Do they encourage the active creation of your best version? Or is there some unspoken contract stating that you should not grow in any way or they will abandon you?

Get really honest about this.

I’ve worked with men whose lives were sabotaged by:

• Toxic mothers who refuse to let go of their “precious little boy.”

• Friend groups whose only common interest was drugs/alcohol.

• Abusive family dynamics that punish authenticity and communication.

• The list goes on…

Whatever your social situation is…

If the people around you aren’t bringing out the best in you, maintain a safe distance.

If the people around you are actively sabotaging you … cut them loose.

Temporary loneliness is preferable to being surrounded by toxic people.

You can handle it and you deserve good people around you.

But there's another environment we need to change.

You can do it in 3 minutes after reading this.

And that’s your digital environment.

The information you ingest regularly is either poisoning you or nourishing you.

The fact is — your smartphone is now an extension of your brain.

It isn’t going anywhere.

So we need to be radically intentional about what our feed looks like.

A year ago I unfollowed everyone on my list.

I then decided to intentionally follow certain people.

And only if doing so made my life better.

This took 10 minutes and it changed my life.

Now when I load up social media I’m exposed to new ideas.

I’m inspired, excited and motivated — like I’m hanging out with people who make me better.

So after this email, go through your feed on social media.

Ask yourself which accounts support the creation of your best version.

If they don’t, unfollow them immediately.

It’s time for a serious digital decluttering.

And when you’re at 0 and you’re looking for positive influences on your feed…

Follow my new Instagram page.

It’s a new project I’ve launched with a team that will help me spread the message of mature masculinity, inner-healing work and digital entrepreneurship.

My mission is to help you grow into the confident, independent & free man you know you can be — both emotionally and financially (so you can enjoy life).

If this is what you want and you use Instagram, follow my content.

I have some excellent stuff coming up to help you along your journey.

That’s it for today.

Take care, mate.

Big love.

Oliver “OnlyFans” Cowlishaw