4 needy behaviours you MUST avoid...

Hey man,

Here’s something a lot of men don’t want to admit.

A woman’s attraction doesn’t just come from looks/money/status.

We know this because:

• Countless wealthy men still have unfulfilling dating lives.

• Tons of short men have crazy wild sex lives.

• Many “chads” have social anxiety and avoid women like the plague.

Although…

If you were rich, 6ft 5 and a rock star, you’d be swimming in women.

There are factors out of your control.

But the strongest attraction factor well within your control is your behaviour.

Your behaviour is the #1 attraction factor for most women.

For that reason, if you want to date amazing women, it’s important to know the difference between attractive and unattractive behaviours.

I’ll give you four in this email (although there are plenty of others).

Unattractive behaviour #1: Apologising too much

A man with low self-esteem might apologize too much as a response to his feelings of inadequacy. But this kills attraction because it comes across as insecure.

There’s nothing wrong with owning your mistakes and apologising. This is king behaviour.

But excessively doing it when you’ve done nothing wrong conveys that you don’t value yourself as much as other people.

It’s needy behavior and is likely a turn off.

Unattractive behaviour #2: Being Indecisive

I used to get no matches on dating apps. It was horrible and soul-destroying.

When I did get a match, she’d ghost me.

Until I read some advice online about decisiveness.

Plan a place, a date and a time in advance.

Despite feeling pushy, I tried it.

And it worked. More or less every match became a date.

Turns out, a decisive man is far more attractive than a man who isn’t.

Unattractive behaviour #3: Letting her walk all over you

If you think that you need to please a woman and be nice to her to get her into bed, think again.

It’s possible (even common) to piss a woman off and turn her on at the same time.

But if you’re like most guys, you’re afraid of upsetting her because she might withdraw her affection.

Weirdly, the opposite is more likely to be true.

The asshole bad boy sleeps with more women because he’s authentic, genuine and polarizing.

Conveying that he’s his own man playing by his own rules and will not tolerate undesirable behavior raises his status considerably.

Be more of what I call an ethical asshole.

Unattractive behaviour #4: “Covert contracts”

Let’s say you wanted a woman to do something for you.

Maybe have more sex with you or be more affectionate.

Your task is to get her to do that thing for you.

But there’s a twist - you can’t actually tell her directly what you want her to do for you.

How would you do it?

Buy her gifts? Clean the place? Show her more affection so she feels obliged to show you more affection?

If you aren’t a sociopath, this question might feel kind of horrible because it is.

The reality though is that so many guys are using this strategy in dating & relationships.

What I just described is called a covert contract.

It’s using a gift or a favour as a tool to get a woman’s affection or approval but without ever actually asking directly.

And it repulses women.

Why?

Because to feel attraction, a woman needs to feel safe to open up emotionally, physically and sexually.

And the #1 thing that makes her feel unsafe is incongruence.

You aren’t who you say you are.

You have a hidden agenda or ulterior motive.

This is what gives women the “ick”

Being direct, unapologetic and clear in your intentions is the fastest, most effective way to change your dating life.

And your life in general.

Hope that’s some food for thought.

Big love,

Oliver