I recently turned down a hot woman

Alright, mate.

I’ve got a harsh truth for you.

Sometimes…being the man you want to be, is painful.

Yesterday I was speaking with a client.

And the topic of INTEGRITY came up.

He understood the concept but struggled to understand what it meant in practice.

And then it hit me.

"Oh shit. You should tell him about the hot woman from Peru.”

Usually, I keep the self-disclosure to a minimum during coaching sessions because it rarely helps.

But this time was different.

It was a perfect time to talk about myself.

Here’s what I told him:

Over the past couple of months, I’ve been chatting with a beautiful woman from Peru.

We’ve only talked over WhatsApp because we’re not in the same country.

Gradually, things have been getting hot and heavy…which (as you can imagine) I’ve been enjoying immensely.

Our desire for each other has reached clothing-ripping, boiling-hot levels.

And the best part?

She comes back to Lisbon from Peru in a week or so.

All was going well.

We couldn’t wait to see each other.

Until a week ago when I immediately learned something that threw a spanner in the works.

She has a boyfriend.

Let me snap out of the story for a moment.

Mate, the truth is…

Throughout our lives, we are occasionally presented with a situation that reveals who we really are.

Not who we dream to be.

Not the THOUGHT of ourselves.

Not some grandiose image we might like to secretly jerk off to (sorry had to).

But who we REALLY are.

Because who we really are is revealed through our ACTIONS … not our thoughts or dreams.

This situation was one of those moments.

And I knew it.

I had a decision to make.

Do I be the“old, out-of-integrity nice guy Ollie” who craves validation, sex, and approval from hot women?

That guy would LOVE to f*ck this woman and tell himself:

“But you don’t even know her boyfriend.”

“She’s a grown woman, and this decision is on her.”

“It’s just a bit of fun.”

But then here’s the rub…

If I did that, I would then appear on YouTube videos teaching you how to be a man of integrity whilst being completely full of shit.

I would also need to hide the truth that, if this woman were YOUR girlfriend, I would apparently have no problem banging the hell out of her.

Can you see how much of a terrible idea this would be?

This is what it would mean to act out of integrity.

And the truth is, a man who lacks confidence is ALWAYS … on some level, out of integrity.

He doesn’t know it — but it’s the root cause of his low self-esteem.

That shame he feels?

It’s because he’s acting in ways that betray his BEST version.

• That’s why he can’t look people in the eye.

• That’s why his voice is quiet around people.

• That’s why he struggles to take up space.

It’s because he isn’t serving his greatest version.

But when you do?

That’s integrity.

That’s being able to look yourself in the mirror.

That’s when you earn confidence that you don’t need to fake.

Needless to say, I will be having a hard conversation with this woman.

A part of me will be sad to let this opportunity go, but by doing so I will embody a truth I will teach my sons one day.

No woman on the planet is worth trading your self-respect for.

I’ll keep you posted, brother.

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Big love

Oliver